I’m not sure about the recommendation of “Female Chauvinist Pigs”, however. Admittedly I haven’t read it, but I’ve had the strong impression from a variety of sources that by condemning the ‘lipstick feminists and loophole women’, it condemns all the women who like to feel sexy and, gasp, attract men. It pushes at a very valid point but seems to bring it back to ‘women can’t be actively sexual, the thought!’.
Of course, I think a woman who defines her entire worth by the men she’s able to attract, worrying constantly whether or not she matches up to the impossible beauty standards set by the media, is hardly a well-developed individual and certainly not a feminist. But on the other hand, there are plenty of women whose pride in themselves comes from their achievements, their skills, their confidence and acceptance of themselves, and yes, sometimes they quite like to wear make-up and pretty clothes and go out to pick up a guy.

I am not one of them myself, but I have respect for those who are after having a good friend who is a woman like this: she’s studying for her master’s degree, wanting to go into quantum mechanics, she’s a wonderful artist and outspokenly feminist. She, however, likes to feel pretty on her own terms and quite likes it when men find her attractive.

I think that to say this makes her a faux-feminist is to insinuate slut-shaming. Weren’t we trying to move past that one?